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Aita for telling my son he can t stay with me, " I explained that I didn't tell her because I knew she'd worry and expect me to talk about how I feel. 48. Sometimes if there is any perceivable reason for hope people can’t let go. You don't get to drop your responsibilities just to win an argument with your wife. He has lost stability in his life, and happiness. AITA for telling my BIL he doesn’t “deserve” a healthy son. She found out and kicked him out of the house. My wife got really upset at me for not telling her and she said that I can't trust her and that I should "talk to her instead of bottling up my feelings. James argued that transparency is important in his house and closed doors mean problems besides that I'm teaching my son to be anti-social instead of encouraging him to bond with his stepbrothers Not wanting her in your home while he is recovering is not a good enough reason to deny your son a visit from his mother while he is feeling vulnerable. He wanted me to come back and say goodbye and arrange her funeral. Red flag. Please accept my warm wishes for your sons speedy recovery. 17. Only his older sisters accept our children but the rest don't. Goodbye, OP. He is your son. I simply can not give you what you seek. So when our parent's came to me asking if If my brother could stay with me I said absolutely not. His disrespect for both of you is amazing considering it doesn’t cost him anything to live with you. It doesn’t matter if it’s your son- A dad was praised for treating his son like an "outsider" after his divorce. He called me before they got out of the house to complain about what the girls were wearing. He created this situation and could hire someone to take care of his wife. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: The action is telling my ex that his new wife can’t come with us to son’s college tours and I might be the AH because she “cares” about my son. They don't see they contributed to us getting divorced. That is not your fault. My brother (29 "Chris") married "Jamie" (30) 3 years ago and have been together for 5. He helps pay YOUR bills and for YOUR furniture. I love Jamie. Bad news is my parents are getting a divorce. When I left, I sat my parents down and explained to them why I was leaving. . Credit: Reddit. You'd think if he was so scared of his son's DNA going on a database he'd have made some effort to get rid of the DNA kit. I'm (20m) currently living with my mom full time since my dad is working out of the country. My last straw was when he told me that he will come to Christmas that I was hosting if I left. So my asshole son decided that he should cheat. Rachel sent my mom what the kitchen and Then just live your life. Don't enable him to be lazy. He has a job. But the last 5 years all he ever has done is text me and ask me for Some people want to see someone be a colossal asshole, MacDonald says. I told her that she was invading his privacy and he has the right to know. You're happy to spend his money on yourself but you're mad you can't brag to your friends. I did not want him to go but he left and moved in with a friend of his and we have not lived together since then. Although he is no longer in contact with them, he still sees his sister and 10-year-old niece, who are both in contact with Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. You're the one who should change. Me (48f) my son (25m). I want no further contact. A couple weeks ago my mom asked if my dad could stay with us for a week Reddit Stories! #shorts #reddit #aita #askreddit AM I AITA for telling my son he can't stay with me when I found out . After all, it’s a process About a year ago my older brother (36M) and his wife (30f) asked to move in with me because while they can afford rent they do not want to pay $2000 a month for He's always been the introvert between the two of us. We have a 16 yo son together "Mason". We have had an okay relationship for the past 8 years. #shorts #askreddit #stories Please L I K EPlease C O M M E N TPlease S U B S C R I B Story 1 NTA he is a grown man and needs to provide for himself. Thats what my mom did when my parents found out about my older sister! Our dad was on the fence about being in her life & my mom wrote him a letter about how important her own father was in her life & I got to meet her when I was like 7 & she was 15yo. They are 25 and 21. " The post first appeared on . Your son will either get over it or he won’t. I can't work outside of this house. Even if he was more successful you shouldn't brag because his accomplishments are his own, not yours, so you can't take credit for them. For context, my dad is an abusive narcissist. Pay up. He's not moving in. A man reached out to me a few days ago and told me my mother was like a mom to him and she was in her final stages of life. So I again told her she needed a job. I've been involved with them He told me his friend found him this job and it just happened - but I don't think it did because he knew he had to give up staying with his sisters while I work. I might have overreacted and been hurtful, which makes me an AH. You have a husband problem. Not at all. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my son not to come to us when he fails, after he said he's changing majors from something he's doing well in. This was a slow-motion well-planned crash, and you could have stopped it by hiring a sitter. He doesn't come back to stay with you until he agrees to respect the rules and the residents of the house. “He talks about wolves and werewolves nonstop at the dinner table and most of us are sick of it. he said he wanted it to 'stay between the adults', and yeah, it should have, but you didn't bring the kids into He lost his right to live with you by his own doing. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: Told my son he needs to get over us missing his wedding. (r/AmITheAsshole) more more My mom and my dad got married when I was 4 and they were happily together until my mom passed a few weeks ago. Juicy AITA for telling my husband that I can't stay with him when our newborn is still small? I have 3 step kids (12m, 11f, 8m) who are damn good kids. I think OP should definitely document all of this in a diary and contact a lawyer immediately. In his eyes, I was hurting his mother. At 18, son can respect the rules of the house or figure out his own living situation (with other folks who don't want to clean up after themselves and just want to be left the f alone). He came to stay I am five months pregnant, I have twin girls who i'll call Lisa and Sophia (10f), my youngest boy, Joshua (17m), my baby girl, Emily who is one, and my oldest son, Danny (21m). OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I may be the asshole because i told my friend she cant live here if she is going to constantly be at her boyfriends I may be wrong because her not When I went to speak to James he said my son is hiding stuff though my son said he wants privacy and for his stepbrothers to stop taking his stuff. You are the parent too. He wants you back with his father so anything that offers even the sliver of hope he is going to cling to and use. He put his hand on my shoulder and told me that he trusts that his daughter chose the right man, which made me want to cry. 2 - My wife wants me to take away the punishment as she thinks my son I went home at 3 and surprisinglyfound my husband there. 15 years after that and they still don't acknowledge our children except the son he has with his ex. Like now. He's pushing you far too fast and he's taking liberties and they are two huge red flags. Carlos left behind his girlfriend and their now 4 yo son, We don When this man is upset with his son, he asks Reddit: "AITA for telling my son he will not be taking over the family business and it is going to my daughter?" I have two kids my oldest son and my daughter. Here, a father with his arm around his son as they both smile. So her son has no one in your home to balance out your wife's controlling behaviour whereas the other 3 kids have you to advocate for them. But her son (8) is so out of control. My dad was there for the bad performances and the good, he stayed home with me when I was sick, he helped me with homework, he grounded me when I screwed up (which was a lot) and he congratulated me on my success. 2. My daughter is on our side on this issue though. “teenage angst” refers to real feelings and emotions. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. My ex killed himself and most of them blame me for that because I would not take him back after the divorce. The post “AITA For I guess she asked why he was so worried and my brother told her about my sister dying. Anyone who thinks they can just chill at their parents house after dropping out should face a harsh reality sooner than later, especially if it's possible to fix the mistake. he yelled saying that my lunch with mom could've "fucking" waited but I chose to be "fucking petty" just to prove a point. He’s into wolves. i don't care what you were doing. I wasn’t invited to his wedding, any holidays and so on if he was hosting. Because of the way my wife and I got together, there was a lot of strife in her divorce from her ex, there was a lot of tumult in Vicky's life and he was only eight at the time. I'm forking out an extra $700 a month with no help from her and my son is struggling to pay her portion because he is in college. NTA 2 hours is nothing. I stepped in and firmly told my son I have been separated from his father for 2 years and am divorcing him. You’re using your kid as a scapegoat for your marriage breakdown and that’s so unfair to the kid. i don't care what mike was doing. HUGE red flag. It's not "fending for oneself" when the parents tell the kids "go to university, we pay for it, you stay under our roof OR work, keep your money to yourself, you stay under our roof OR choose to do nothing with your life and you'll have to fend for yourself". But I stood my ground. AITA for telling my niece she can’t stay with us? So my niece (16f) was staying with me and my husband for a few days as their family car broke down and we live a 10 minute walk from her school, and taking the bus would be almost an hour from her house given the route it I adopted all of them but one and that is Nick. I told him she will divorce him if he doesn’t stop being lazy and figure it out. ) Nathan. Bringing you back into my life would introduce complications I am not willing to face for my own good and that of my family. He left after calling me a jerk and my mom is now on me for what I said Thank you for the Mac and cheese recipes Updates: I love my SIL, my mom apologized to me. Her and I have never NTA. Stay the heck away, otherwise he will make your life hell. That's disrespect. I gave her the benefit of the doubt the first time but then she sent the pictures to her father. I personally agree that 300k for a teaching degree is wild, because unless youre at a prestigious school after graduation that sum would eat your salay for a half a decade, and teaching is like nursing- as long as you dont have serious violations and aren't a danger to people around you YTA. If you let him move in he will live off you and never get a job. She is the type of person who, if she doesn't get her way and things don't go exactly how she wants them to, she will inflict "consequences" on you and the family, such as going no contact for periods of time. He has 8 hours free and he can’t keep the house clean. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: 1 - I grounded my step son for telling my son that I'm not his biodad. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. My step daughter came home an hour later and started yelling at me for “snitching” on her. Violet Roth Sep 28, 2023 | 1:48 PM ADVERTISING When this man is upset with his son, he asks Reddit: "AITA for telling my son he will not be taking over the family business and AITA for telling my son he can't stay with me when I found out why his wife kicked him out. Update: Not sure if anyone will actually see this but there has been an update. She was deeply homophobic, religious and didn't want a disgusting son like me. 72. He never wanted me to be his mom which is fine. Trigger Warnings: My wife Sara (39f) has a son Vicky (20m) from her previous marriage. ) are divorced. He's already talking about a child after only a few months. So I personally have it mentally categorized as a "keep an eye on" symbol, rather than a blatant red flag, especially if it's an older tattoo before the white supremacists got their grubby little fingers all over Nordic stuff in such a visible way. My gf and I left right away. You not telling your wife of his secret hideaway gives him a place of peace and space, so be contented you have done the right thing all this time. 2 I should respect his feelings and he was just venting which was a valid thing and I shouldn't say AITA for telling my son that he ruined Christmas for me and his stepdad when he decided to spend it with his dad? Me (F. he's a grown ass He needed to know if his 20-year-old son wanted to go as soon as possible, so he could get visas for his other sons in time. I was intending on getting off work at 6 but had some stuff to get done. She does things like kick him out of her room but allow my brother to stay and acts as if doing things for him like getting a sippy cup or making him food is too much work. The law has exceptions for abusive parents. While I’d probably say that this singular action won’t sway a court to having no custody for the husband, it’s still a good idea to have as much of an airtight case as possible. I then heard him on the phone yelling at someone. She pulls the "I'm so depressed I can barely drag myself out of bed. This woman’s parents paid for all of her three brothers’ college expenses At this point I was done. He was angry he started yelling at me calling me selfish and unfeeling. My ex husband and I used to argue on who should get Mason for the holidays back when he was little. I got remarried to my husband (M. A parent-child argument ensues when a person refuses to pay off their son's credit card debt because he would never listen when they taught him. I told him that his lack of mamagement wasn't my fault. Despite you making a clear boundary with valid reasoning behind it, he's pushing against it. my husband travels “AITA For Telling My Son It’s Not My Fault That He [Messed] Up And He Can’t Blame Me” Story by Denis Krotovas • 2d Raising children can be difficult. ”. He kept getting more angry saying I was "betraying him". Your sister is extremely entitled as you already know. AITA for telling my son that if he can't help me then he can pay for his own stuff? I am a mother of 5 and a half, (46f). My son was very angry at me and wouldn't talk to me at all. ) and My ex husband (M. She’ll give him junk food all day long instead of feeding him properly because he can’t speak up to say what he wants. You really can't kick your spouse out of your house. It isn’t less painful for them because it’s common among teens to feel painful emotions. If you teach your son to ask for consent at a young age and keep reinforcing that he will always ask for consent. The Hotline, text START to 88788, or call 800-799-3224. I finally had AITA for telling my son he can't stay with me when I found out why his wife kicked him out #aita. See, he witnessed his mother getting beat by his father (who's now in prison for 19 years) and despite him being so young when it happened, the therapist and evaluators have stated that OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: 1 telling my son to get over the divorce. Maybe less an idiot and more like he's setting up his wife to be the villain to his parents because he can't deal with conflict. My mom hugged me and cried, while my dad said and did nothing. Five days (your entire time off) is too long for people who only live a two hour drive away. I never saw her again. When I finally moved out, he didn't want to see me at all. DIGITALSKILLET/GETTY. That part of it is you putting your own comfort over your child's needs. AITA for telling my son I won’t be apart of his life if he goes through with this idea? My son (26) has been in a relationship for 4 years with his girlfriend (25). My son moved out when he was 17. Letting his parents decide how long they'll stay is not good. If something bad happens to his wife, could be anything out of your control, he will blame you and try to put that burden on you. My husband and I agreed that he'd take the girls and go to the restaurant and wait for me there. I took about a week for me to move out and all this time my ex cried all the time, begging me to stay. I hope you understand and wish you all the best in your life. I’m so It wasn’t your kid’s fault that his parents can’t communicate to each other and seek professional help to assist them to understand and parent their son better. I understood why. It’s just too much OP, (don’t read if you don’t want to know my horror birth story, but I wrote this because I couldn’t have predicted it, and you can’t predict what will happen for your child’s birth either, sorry!) when I had my son last year, it was supposed to be a simple induction/delivery and was very much looking to be that way. “I lost count of the weird stuff he says and does in public like jump up and down and clap at Walmart. Basically, my SIL and niblings are going to come to stay with us over the summer and my nephew will be enrolled in some therapies in our city. Seeing people face consequences for their Eventually, my daughter admitted to me that she was a lesbian, and that she and this girl had been dating since January and that she FLEW TO MEET HER WITHOUT TELLING ME OR HER FATHER! Mind you, she flew over 1,000 miles to see this girl that she had NEVER MET and had only called and video chatted with for a few months. He disrespected someone in your house who had done nothing. Evan also didn't kick his son out; he gave him an ultimatum and Jimmy chose to leave. However, the OP admitted he was AITA for telling my son he can’t stay with me when I found out why his wife kicked him out? #reddit #aita #viralreels #fyp #redditstorytime #redditreadings #redditposts. You still have a right to call him out on his shit even as an adult. It would be dangerous for her to have sex. The moment he turned 18 he made it very clear he doesn’t care about me at all. Ok so here's the story. I am five months pregnant, I have twin girls who i'll call Lisa and Sophia (10f), my youngest boy, Joshua (17m), my baby girl, Emily who is one, and my oldest son, Danny (21m). For a few years, my wife tried her best and tried everything to help him but it That said, I think there is a case to be made. ago. We have a family business that works on farm equipment and it is a very good business. NTA, It’s important to teach consent to kids but saying “Don’t touch girls like that” should be changed “Don’t touch anyone like that unless they say it’s ok”. If your son can't stay with you, he may demand to be allowed to move back into his own home, which She is on bedrest. saveyboy • 3 mo. Help keep the sub engaging! The fact he didnt even THINK to just offer her the same money was silly. My mother kicked me out when I was 16 because I was gay. The Original Poster (OP) explained: “My son is 14 and is a textbook example of Edgelord. We have some connections to some of the best places and My son Adam's (24) best friend Carlos (25) passed away over 2 years ago in a car accident, this loss completely devastated Adam to the point where he lost his job, they were like brothers and our family have known his family for years. Help keep the sub engaging! ChibiSailorMercury • 2 mo. The teenager has lost more than just “some respect for his mom”. 44. "AITA for telling my niece her grandparents are homophobic?" he asked. I could be a jerk for the whole thing and he could be right that I have to make up for it more. “They want drama. A couple of days ago. Right now all his father is doing is giving him hope. NTA. We were on a trip to Hawaii a few weeks ago, my YTA. Not ok. And so, he emailed his son about the tinaciv • 26 days ago Yes, and it's absolutely important his sons don't feel replaced or neglected or he will unwittingly rob his daughter the chance to have two siblings who AITA for telling my dad he can't stay with us. They’re there for the opportunity to rip into people. You can offer grief counseling but he’s 28 so you can’t force him to go. She has a husband and he has 2 daughters from a previous marriage (12F and 14F) and my half-sibling (6M), my mom's husband is unemployed because he was abruptly terminated, both of them do gigs here and there while he looks for a job but they barely bring money Yes, she did choose to do it while you said no, but her parents said yes and then backed out. He is also putting you in a bad position. Definitely NTA. #6: AITA—Telling my parents to pay me back my college tuition if they want a relationship. I was just done. Nta. So we're also very devastated over this loss. AITAH for blocking my son. We wanted to go out for dinner. Especially since the kid probably can’t control or understand his behaviour. You could visit them anytime or they you for a weekend etc. It's like he's a kid dealing with a situation too big for him so he's gone to tell on them to He’ll come crying to me. You may have inadvertently made things worse for your daughter-in-law. I think she's great.
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